The Social Media Detox

When I first set this blog up, I made a pledge that I wasn’t going to have any social media links attached to it. My blog was just going to be about writing and nothing else. I obviously failed at that. A few weeks later, I went self hosted and added social media links – my bad.

Social media is brilliant. I can stay in contact with those I used to see daily, I can share blog posts and drive traffic to my site, I can even see what people are eating for dinner if I really want to.

However, along with all the positives comes a whole load of sh*t. 

And, I hate it.

I hate the slagging people off, the condescending comments and the judging. It’s just not needed and it just makes everyone’s live so negative. It’s a big part of the reason I kept leaving blogging in the first place and why I’m a social media hiatus from my personal Twitter. I’m not 12 and, to be honest, I just ain’t go the energy for it.

So, that’s why I am a regular social media detox-er.

I delete social media apps off my phone, log out on anything I don’t want to be updated about and just breath the fresh air.

Okay, it’s the same air as before, but it feels fresher. Mainly because it’s not filled with everyone else’s drama.

It’s also why I like using the unfollow button so often, cuz I just ain’t got time for that nonsense. I didn’t when I was 12, let alone when I’m 26 and meant to be running my own life.

I love social media and, as sad as it sounds, I think I would struggle to give it up completely. I guess I grew up when it grew up too. We’re like old, long lost friends.

But, no matter how close a friend we are. If you’re going to be a negative influence in my life, I’m going to drop you quicker than Ross drops the ‘we were on a break!’ line.

I don’t want to follow people that bring drama to my life.

I want to follow people that make me feel like I’m not alone. I want my social media to be a place that showcases peoples most treasured achievements, but also their worst. I don’t want a fake stream of people coming in and I certainly don’t want their high school drama.

But, most importantly, I want a stream where people are supportive and up lifting. Where those around me are building people back up when they fall, instead of judging them and, dare I say it, getting some form of gratitude out of people’s misfortunes.

Sometimes, it really bogs me down, which is where the social media detox comes in.

It gives me time to think about things, calm down and reassess what’s going on around me. What I want to see and what I don’t want to see.

And, if at the end of all of that, I unfollow a load of people then so be it. It’s my life, my choices, innit?

Cuz, babycakes, I’m an adult and I am determined to have an awesome life. Not helping my awesomeness become a reality? Then it’s bye, bye chickas. 

  • kate

    I agree about social media it can be a very mixed blessing. I need it for keeping in touch with a few people who I can only can online but sometimes get rather annoyed with the negative and all the other crap!! Good for you having breaks from it though!!

    • Maj

      It’s sometimes tricky to find a balance. I’d be lying if I don’t think about deleting it all every so often!

  • Kira

    Having social media breaks are definitely needed ! Totally agree with you lovely xx

    • Maj

      They’re the best!

  • Laura Dove

    I love a good social media break, I usually do it when we are away on holiday and it’s such a relief to escape the daily dramas and the games everyone seems to play! Hate it!

    • Maj

      Ah holidays AND social media breaks are THE BEST.

  • My Money Cottage

    Totally agree, there’s far too much drama on social media. The bragging about fantastic lives gets me too, go off and enjoy it if it’s that wonderful instead of posting all about it! Grr.

    • Maj

      It’s just a bit much, isn’t it?

  • Sarah Ebner

    I think it depends how social media is used – sometimes I feel it’s great to have a conversation on there and share your views. But we can all use a break on occasions!

    • Maj

      It can definitely be used for strengths!

  • Jo

    I need to try a social media detox once in a while too. I am always holding my phone/iPad

    • Maj

      They’re good! When I come back, I’m definitely better at taking ‘phone breaks’! x

  • I don’t think I have ever unfollowed anyone so I get really disheartened if I see my friends or followers have gone down 🙁 not sure I could ever detox…

    • Maj

      You should try it! It’s not as hard as you think! x

  • Abigail Reece

    A social media detox is needed every now and then as it can easily become time consuming and lately the community has been at a low, I get so fed up with it!

    • Maj

      It just makes it all too much, doesn’t it? It’s been the same everywhere! I don’t want to hear that rubbish, let alone read it! x

  • I don’t often log out of apps but I do mute hashtags and the like all the time. Then it makes my feed far less stressful! xx

    • Maj

      Definitely! I also have a few group chats that I’m a part of and mute those too – makes me too stressed to have 100s of notifications on my phone!

  • Janice Hopper Sheehan

    Well said. It can be quite consuming.

  • Jenni Grainger

    Time out is essential for your own sanity. When we are out as a family checking blogs, emails or any form of social media is off limits that’s our detox.

    • Maj

      I love it!x