I’m Alone, Not Lonely

I’ve been single for what is now considered a ‘long time’. I’m personally not sure three years counts as a long time but, considering I had to count how long it actually was, I’m clearly not that bothered about it.

From time to time (or every other week I should probably say), I’m often asked if it bothers me that I’m 26 and still single or how I cope not having a man around the house. Clearly these people don’t see me as the strong, independent woman that I actually am.

The thing is, I just don’t care. I know what you’re thinking, a lot of people say this and they actually do – but I don’t, like at all.

You see, for me, in order for me to even consider having a long-term man friend in my life they need to add a serious amount of value to my life. Like, the type of value I can’t imagine not having in my life, if that makes sense? I am in no way interesting in a man friend becoming part of my life and bringing with it a serious amount of drama or the constant inner battle or ‘what ifs’ and other self doubting questions.

And no, I don’t get lonely. In fact, I pretty much love my life and the fact that I can do what I want to do, when I want to do it and I don’t have to ask ‘permission’ or take into question other people’s feelings. I don’t get lonely because I can fill my life with the things that I love to do, just without all the other drama as well. I don’t get lonely because I’m still living the life that I want to and I fill my time based on what I want to do, instead of myself and my partner.

In fact, here are a list of some of the reasons why I love that I’m still single:

  1. If I don’t shave my legs, no one cares
  2. I can eat as much chocolate as I want and not have to worry that I’m getting too fat and my boyfriend might dump me
  3. There is no unwanted drama in my life
  4. I don’t constantly second guess every action or thing that I say just incase I’m coming across as a psycho girl friend
  5. There is no one to get jealous about the fact all my friends are men and I’m constantly surrounded by them
  6. If I wake up and don’t fancy doing anything, I can sit in front of the tele and watch Netflix all day, without pissing anyone else off
  7. I don’t have to check if I do something it might be getting in a way of another plan
  8. I am a bloody strong, independent woman
  9. I can go on nights out and not have to second guess every conversation I’m having with other people, incase it looks like it’s more than it is
  10. When I get home from work, I can do whatever I want to get rid of the type of day I’ve had
  11. I get to share the MOST HILARIOUS date stories you ever did hear
  12. No one cares if I go out for drinks and don’t get home until 4am
  13. I can basically do whatever I want to do, whenever I want to do it
  14. I don’t have to ‘check in’ on someone else before I do something
  15. I don’t have constant anxieties that I’m going to screw up and push the person I think I might be falling for away
  16. When my head gets a bit grey I don’t have to worry about if my other half thinks I’m crazy and wants to dump me but doesn’t want to make things worse
  17. When things don’t go to plan in the man area, you can laugh about it with your girl friends and bin them off
  18. There are no weird arguments
  19. I have less presents to buy
  20. I don’t spend as much money

To be honest, the list goes on and on!

So, no. I’m no lonely and I don’t worry that, at the age of 26, I might end up alone forever.

In fact, I am perfectly okay with the fact that I might end up a lone for ever.

Cuz, do you know what? I’m a strong, independent woman and I don’t need no man to make me feel validated.

Love yourself first, then the rest will fall into place.

How do you feel when you’re on your own?